Hi,
I have scoured the internet and your site for the past few hours over an etiquette dilemma that's just fallen into my lap.
Backstory: My mom is an only child. She has three adult cousins on her dad's side. To protect the guilty I'm just gonna call them One, Two, and Three. Three is my Godmother.
About 10 years ago, my grandmother died. She had apparently been covering up a lot of my grandfather's health issues, including but not limited to some form of dementia or Alzheimer's. After she passed he moved in with us, and then into assisted living (my parents weren't comfortable with him being alone in the house). He had a myriad of health conditions including hips that were fused outside of their sockets and it was hard to walk. He would get panicky and call people. Three got sick of the calls and started prank-calling him and generally, for lack of a better word, was being a twat.
When he passed away there was a SIGNIFICANT amount of money that came to my mom and dad, and a large trust fund was set up for me. Three was pissed because she got nothing. In the years following she left my parents and myself out of events for her daughters, ranging from baptisms, graduation parties, birthdays and first communions. My parents aren't bad guests and give very good gifts.
Well, One's daughter is getting married in a few weeks. Originally the wedding was supposed to take place last year, around the time of my wedding. (We invited all of One, Two, and Three's families, even though I didn't want Three there.) My parents ran into Three's husband and said something about the wedding. He avoided eye contact and said "who knows if this is even going to happen!"
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