Speaking as a pre-op transman, I'd say just ask her how she would prefer to
be addressed.The conversation could go a little like this: "Hey, I'm not
sure how you want to be addressed and I want …

Hey Sars —
About two years before I met my now-fiance, he purchased a home. To call it a fixer-upper would be an understatement — the house had not been lived in for 10 years …

Hi Sars, love your site.I have kind of an odd question for you.Back in the day I grew up on the same block as a Very Famous Author.He, like anyone who has some amount of …

Dear Sars,
I have recently moved to a brand new town, a brand new
apartment, and a brand new set of roommates. It
sounded ideal when I was signing the third year lease
on my last apartment, and for …

I've seen several letters to several advice columnists (I'm addicted to them all, and welcome links to others not on my daily read list) regarding inappropriate questioning.For example, you recently ran a couple of letters …

Sars –
I'm writing with regard to the letter from the person who was worried that she was going to end up doing all the chores like her mother even though her boyfriend was willing to …

Dear Sarah,
I am a college sophomore who may be flunking out of school within the next week or two.This has been building for a couple of years and involves a few different issues, so I'll …

Oh wise Sars, who is far more versed in the language than I –
I was composing an angry letter to a political wingnut (exposed as such over on TINO) and realized I had a usage …

Dear Sars,
I recently moved into an apartment at school with three good friends from the
past couple of years.We have all gotten along well in the past, but yet are
very different.
One big difference between me and …

Dear Sars,
Last year I became friends with a really nice guy who was a Muslim. I kept asking him loads of questions about his religion so he gave me a translation of the Qur'an. I've …