The Vine: May 10, 2013
I'm in a management position at work, which was fine until I was given a new department that requires a lot more…management…of people. I'm not great at people.
I'm not especially chatty. I don't have a lot of patience. I'm not that good at conflict resolution, and the group I'm working with now seem to have the emotional age of a kindegarten classroom. When talking with them, I very often find myself thinking, "You are a grown-up, why are you whining at me like she took your Barbie and won't give it back?" Which to say out loud would probably be counter-productive.
Right now, I'm sort of at a loss as to how to approach them. I just want something that will help me do my job better, so that I can help them do their jobs better, if that makes sense?
So, I'm hoping the readers can point me in the direction of a book(s) that would give me some guidance in this area. All of the titles I've perused so far sound obnoxiously self-help-y and don't come cheap. I'd rather not spend $20 on two hundred pages of finding my inner tree to grow better leaves or some such nonsense that won't give me any useful ideas. I'm looking for some practical advice on management techniques to help keep everyone around the office sane, including me.
I work in a retail environment if anyone has industry specific suggestions.
Enough With The Grumbling
My current and beloved everyday bag is this.
Hobo no longer makes this bag, and its current totes all lack the external pockets that made this so great for me. I've been looking around on Zappos and eBags; there's a couple of things by JP Ourse & Cie and MyWalit that come close, but I'm not completely sold. (I think my dream bag falls right at the intersection of "sleek laptop bag" and "large handbag" so I might be accidentally filtering it out or searching wrong.) I like something a little sleeker than the highly accessorized bags that seem to be very popular right now — lots of tassels and decorative zipper pulls and…whatever the leather equivalent of a ruffle is.
The key features that I'd like to replicate: Shoulder straps long enough to be carried over a winter coat — and they could be a little sturdier or better-attached than the ones on the current bag, but no flimsier. Size: needs at minimum to be able to carry a hardcover book along with all my other crap (which…usually also includes a Kindle, as well as wallet, phone, makeup, etc.); will also occasionally double as an overnight bag so would ideally handle some basic toiletries and a clean shirt. Good array of internal and external pockets, and at least some that zip closed (doesn't have to be quite as many as the current bag, which has exterior on both back and front and five internal pockets plus pen loops, but I'd be delighted if it came close). Available in a color other than black or brown. Some sort of closure at the top (rather than a totally open tote bag).
It could be messenger-style rather than tote-style, as long as I can get into it while it's on my shoulder without awkward contortions. Leather or microfiber is ideal, but open to any material as long as it's sturdy, reasonably suitable for all weather, and a little girlier than, say, LL Bean-style canvas.
It doesn't need to be super-cheap, but I'd love to keep it under $300 (though if the perfect thing came in a little higher, I could probably swing it).
Many thanks to the Nation!
Abandoned by Hobos
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