Okay, first a little background stuff. I am 24 years old, first-year graduate student. I’ve spent the past two and a half years out of college working full-time, living on my own, and dating a …

In college, Ernie and I often used to communicate using Talking Heads songs, partly because that’s all we listened to besides Cypress Hill and the Smiths, partly because it functioned as a secret code that …

Dear Sarah,
Of course, the usual compliments about your site apply. We’re both fans.
Our problem is this: A guy friend of ours (Bob) is dating a girl (Sue) we both know is a skank. We were …

Hey Sars,
Just wanted to mention something that Trying To Deal might find helpful. Nearly every veterinary college has a Pet Loss Support Hotline these days. The people answering the telephone will understand how she feels, …

I think your advice to Grumpy Grad Student is pretty spot-on, but I did want to add something. GGS’s husband sounds a lot like many people I have met in Debtors Anonymous. I ended up …

Dear Sars,
Here’s the situation: I have been dating my boyfriend, Jim, for over two years. About a year of that has been long distance. In the non-long-distance times, we have lived together and also lived …

Whenever I hear one of my contemporaries waxing nostalgic about childhood, I have to suppress a snort. It’s not that I had an unhappy childhood by any means; I grew up with a loving family …

Dear Sars,
I have never asked for advice before, so here goes. I deeply care for this guy; in fact I think he may be the one, but I have deep commitment issues in the sense …

Hi Sars,
Long-time listener, first-time caller. When I read Sad Sack Sis’s letter
this morning, I almost fell out of my chair. This letter isn’t really about me, but let’s just say that I could have written …

Dear Sars,
Why are some people such cowards? Seriously, how hard is it to pick up the phone and say “sorry, I don’t think it’s working.” It takes less time then brushing your teeth, and allows …