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The Vine: April 26, 2013
April 26, 2013 – 11:42 AM | 35 Comments
The Vine: April 26, 2013

Got an “Ask the Readers” question for you, although the topic is a bit off the traditional Tomato track. It concerns the intersection of diabetes and sex. 

The Vine: January 30, 2013
January 30, 2013 – 10:49 AM | 74 Comments
The Vine: January 30, 2013

How do you push yourself into having sex if your body/gut instinct doesn’t necessarily want to? I know from reading previous columns that you’re normally a fan of “getting it over with” with a good-enough …

The Vine: February 4, 2009
February 4, 2009 – 3:55 PM | 41 Comments

Dear Sars,
So. I’m 41, and I haven’t had sex for eleven years. For most of that time it wasn’t for lack of trying — I just couldn’t seem to make it past a first date …

The Vine: September 10, 2008
September 10, 2008 – 9:54 AM | 46 Comments

Dear Sars,
I have this friend, let’s call her Poodle. We’re both in college (senior year) and have been best friends since our very first day when we were both terrified whimpering freshmen. I love her …

The Vine: August 13, 2008
August 13, 2008 – 12:21 PM | 75 Comments

Dear Sarah,
I’ve often followed your advice, but this is the first time I’ve written in.
If you are, say, a florist, musician, or photographer, and your friend or relative asks you if you would do the …

The Vine: July 2, 2008
July 2, 2008 – 3:03 PM | 60 Comments

Hey Sars,
I met a guy a few months ago and we fell hard and fast for one another.Things have been terrific except for one thing.He doesn’t think I’m sexy.He loves me, thinks I’m attractive, smart, …

The Vine: April 12, 2007
April 12, 2007 – 11:02 AM | No Comment

Dear Sars,
I have an unusual problem, and I hope you can offer some insight.
I am a twenty-five-year-old virgin. I have had virtually no romantic or sexual experiences — ever. Essentially, I am afraid of sex …

The Vine: February 23, 2007
February 23, 2007 – 3:06 PM | No Comment

Hi Sars,
Re: the woman who hates the pill and her boyfriend who hates condoms,
I highly recommend the sponge ( It’s back
and it’s great. I have been using it with my boyfriend of seven
months and it …

The Vine: February 22, 2007
February 22, 2007 – 2:30 PM | No Comment

Dear Sars,
I’ve been thinking about writing this letter for awhile now, but kept putting it off because, well, admitting that I needed advice from someone instead of being able to work things out on my …

The Vine: November 8, 2006
November 8, 2006 – 7:38 PM | No Comment

I also am a copy editor/page designer for a newspaper. If “Hit” is working
in a newsroom, and the newspaper follows Associated Press style, he/she
should have an Associated Press stylebook and the latest edition of
Webster’s New …