You might recommend both friends [from the 2/13/01 letter] read The Gift of Fear: Survival Signals That Protect Us from Violence by Gavin De Becker. There might be some parts that could be construed as …

Sars,
My problem is either with my roommate or with myself. I am counting on you to help me decide.
Let me start out by saying I am a big fan of “unrealistic” entertainment. My favorite TV …

Hi Sars,
My best friend’s husband has a psycho ex that is stalking him. She sends him threatening notes and phone calls, and she breaks into his car and his office. He refuses to take this …

Hi Sars, love your site. I have a question that’s not especially pressing, but more related to etiquette. You seem to be very honest and rational, so maybe you can steer me in the right …

Dear Sars,
New Year’s, a (male) friend of mine and I were pretty drunk and we were fooling around. I was worried that it would mess things up, but he told me not to worry. Now …

I think you posted those letters just to anger people. It certainly worked on me.
First, there’s no universal “guy code.” When I break up with a woman, I don’t need to first consult my handbook. …

I disagree — the two expressions are not interchangable. However, I can only opine on the expressions that my group of friends/acquaintances use. Perhaps in some parts of this country, they reference the same underpinnings, …

Hey Sarah,
I am writing in response to the girl who can’t find a guy who loves her (I think her name was Holly). I don’t know if you want to hear this but “there’s something …

Dear Sars,
I was catching up with some of the Vines I missed over the holidays and attempting to get my mind off this problem that has been plaguing me for a few days, when I …

Dear Sars,
I have this close friend who is actually my roommate as well. About two years ago she confessed that she had a flirtation with a married man, which escalated to a few kisses. The …