Dear Sars —
I’ve tried to write this question a gazillion times to make it sound less stupid than it does, but I can’t. So, here goes. I work in a small office — a few …

Hey Sars,
I work with this girl at my college in a part-time job. She eventually was hired full-time at another place of business, but still decided to work weekends at the college. She lives quite …

Howdy Neighbor,Great site! I need your sage advice. I recently got
back together with my ex-girlfriend, Ellen. We
haven’t had sex yet, but it’s happening soon, and I’m
confused about something.
Previously, Ellen and I dated for a year. …

Sars,
I was married the May before last. As my wife and I
are both atheist,
it was a wholly secular wedding. My very religious
parents did not
approve — to the point where they refused to attend.
We pleaded,
cajoled, and …

Hi Sars,
I met a guy one night while I was cocktailing.As
tends to happen when one is a cocktail waitress, he
and his friend started chatting with me.Since I had
had like, the best day ever, I was …

Dear Sars,
I have questions that I’ve never seen addressed anywhere.My family and friends
can’t answer them — they have no experience with this. Perhaps you can help.
Here’s my situation:
I’m an artist who pays the bills by …

Speaking as a pre-op transman, I’d say just ask her how she would prefer to
be addressed.The conversation could go a little like this: “Hey, I’m not
sure how you want to be addressed and I want …

Since you have lived in New York City, I’m sure you have some perspective on this problem.How do I treat the homeless/poor people I encounter with dignity without giving them money?I do not want to …

Note: The answer to yesterday’s “you/your visiting” grammar-nundrum is found under “fused participles” in the Garner.I never would have looked there in a billion years.Thanks, AB Chao!

Sars,
I met Joe through a personal ad six weeks …

Hey Sars —
About two years before I met my now-fiance, he purchased a home. To call it a fixer-upper would be an understatement — the house had not been lived in for 10 years …