The Vine: May 1, 2000
There’s this slut-face I know. We hate each other but have mutual friends. I found out that the slut-face was messing around [with] her best friend’s boyfriend. So, I told the best friend what was going on so that she would know not to trust the slut-face. It was a trying week, but things were settled. But that’s not the problem.The problem now is that a few of the mutual friends that we once shared are being shady with me. They don’t talk to me, they avoid me, and they don’t offer an explanation to why they refuse to associate with me. It’s really weird.
I have no problem finding new friends and I refuse to sink down to their level and be just as shady. But I feel weird about the whole thing, because I know that this is adjacent to the situation I mentioned earlier. I also feel like I did the right thing by telling, and I have a feeling that they wouldn’t agree.
Should I address the issue vehemently, or should I just say, “Fuck it. It’s just high school, and I’ll be out soon. No need to give in to the drama”?
Signed,
The Lone Willow Tree of Teenage Angst and Amazing Beauty
Dear Lone,
“Give in to the drama,” eh? And who created the drama? Oh, right. You did. You interfered in a situation that had nothing to do with you, and you left the mutual friends in an awkward position as a result. How exactly did you expect them to react when you ratted out their friend, for no better reason than that you dislike her – did you think they’d congratulate you on your moral rectitude?
You think that you “did the right thing by telling.” I disagree, but either way, the damage is done. What should you do now? Apologize to the mutual friends for putting them in the middle of the situation, and then leave it alone – and the next time a circumstance like this one arises, keep your mouth shut. Slut-faces usually get hoist with their own petards, so do yourself and everyone else a favor and stay out of it.
Tags: friendships
