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Submitted by on October 3, 2008 – 11:59 AM57 Comments

Hi, Sars —

I am desperately hoping that some of your amazing readers will have suggestions regarding decent, flavorful, non-alcoholic beer.If not, it’s going to be a long 9 months.For both me and my husband.

If it helps, some of my alcoholic favorites include Rogue Dead Guy, Anchor Steam, and Three Floyds Alpha King; if I am in a bar with limited selection, I will generally go with Bass or Sam Adams.

Thank you!

Beer and Pregnancy…Two Great Tastes That Taste Great Together

Dear Beer,

“Beer and Pregnancy”: best band name I’ve heard all week.(Last week’s: “Secret Decaf.”Don’t ask.)

Also, congratulations!   Anyway.   I hear that Sharp’s is tolerable, but…that’s the problem, really, isn’t it.The selection just isn’t that good, so “tolerable” is often the best you can hope for.(O’Doul’s is o’ful.)

Readers, any thoughts?

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  • kates says:

    I’m so glad to see so much common-sense advice about moderation being the key here. I’ve birthed two kiddos and I drank occasionally throughout both pregnancies. I also *never* skipped my tea or coffee in the morning, not once. (: I found that drinking in public while hugely pregnant was good practice for breastfeeding in public (not all “here are my boobs!” but I don’t hide out in the bathroom either). Both are situations in which you may get judgmental stares, or even the occasional rude comment, but public knowledge and tolerance for these (PERFECTLY HEALTHY and also NOT THEIR BUSINESS) things are growing every day. Come up with a good response and smile in case you run into an idiot, and go enjoy yourself.

    Also: the amount of guilt and worry and crap that is troweled onto expecting mothers these days is ridiculous. If you start, now, trusting in YOUR judgment and having confidence in what makes sense to YOU instead of letting every expert out there gun you down with everything you have to do to be a good mother, things will be easier as you go. It’s a wonderful journey, and it’s your own — don’t let someone else tell you how to make it.

    Was that a rant? If so, rant over.

  • Ix says:

    @Jo: The difference between n/a wine and grape juice is the taste, mostly. N/a wine, for all that it lacks alcohol, still *tastes* like real wine – you don’t feel like you just got punted back to the little kids’ table.
    My parents liked to get it for me and my siblings, so that we could enjoy New Years’ or other special occasions with them, without feeling like we were being left out some how.

    @Alessandra: I agree that the infant mortality rate wasn’t due to the drinking (or at least, not the drinking alone). The majority of it was due to the many, *many* illnesses that kids could and did get at the time – most of which have also been eliminated, due to vaccinations. Then there was also the fact that nutrition wasn’t as good as it is today – the kids in the nobility would get good food, yes, but kids from less wealthy families couldn’t be sure of that. Because of that, you ran into nutrition-related diseases: rickets, jaundice, scurvy and the like.

  • elise says:

    I’ve never been pregnant, but my best friend is now pregnant with number two. Her doctor told her that she would be fine drinking a glass of wine every now and then after twenty weeks. But she never really did because she felt crappy and didn’t think one glass of wine would help that.

    The best part though is that she started feeling better by the end (as is typical, from what i hear). This is when her mother in law decided to throw her a perfectly lovely baby shower at a gorgeous restaurant that is also a winery. So the rest of us got to sample dozens of wines and take them home with us, while she sat there enormously pregnant and finally feeling well enough to drink, but was also quite aware that there were dozens of people not with our party who would scorn her if she took even a sip. Seeing as how my friend is quite the Oenophile when not pregnant, we have often wondered if this was a passive aggressive move by a not always wonderful mother in law.

    On the subject of N/A beers in all my years bartending the only ones I would recommend if someone asked were Kaliber and Buckler, but I obviously need to keep my eyes peeled for the St. Pauli girl and Beck’s varieties! Good luck with your beer search and your baby!

  • jalana says:

    I respect people’s choices here and love that everyone’s done their reading. But that said (as a med student who just finished her obgyn rotation and did a presentation on this topic)…the guidelines are made b/c while there’s no study that conclusively says whether or not low EtOH exposure during pregnancy is harmful, abstaining has no true negative effects (besides a bad craving) while fetal alcohol syndrome is horrific. Human studies support a dose-response curve to alcohol exposure (but have been unable to state where the “line” is, which is of course the whole issue) And many animal studies, done in everything from mice to goats, supports not only multitudes of negative effects of EtOH but also, and importantly, negative effects into the 2nd and 3rd trimesters. It’s not like the central nervous system is done developing after the first 3 mos. which is why it’s called fetal alcohol spectrum disorder now b/c milder symptoms such as cognitive deficits (but not full mental retardation) are a well established sequelae of alcohol exposure. Several studies have shown good correlations between poor school performance and prenatal alcohol exposure in children who were not previously labeled with “fetal alcohol syndrome.” Is it ultimately up to you to weigh the risks/benefits/evidence/lack thereof? Sure. But there is good logic behind the guidelines, and at the very least, if you decide to drink after you thought about all this, go ahead, but I think it’s false to argue that it’s “safe” when in fact we really don’t know and the evidence points two ways.

  • Meredith says:

    Congrats to all who are expecting!

    I didn’t drink at all during my pregnancy (I had a doc who wouldn’t let me do *anything*. No coffee or coke, no tuna, no nothin’ fun!). However, I did get a kick out of drinking grape or cranberry juice out of a wine glass in restaurants. The waiter usually thought it was funny, too! (I got some stares, and I’d just take a big old gulp. The few who felt the need to comment were met with an innocent “Oh, it’s just juice! I just wanted to pretend.”)

    But then, I have an odd sense of humor sometimes.

  • Lizbet says:

    Beer — lemme add my congratulations!

    I am not and have never been preggers, but I have birthed many a hangover in my day. Generally, medically speaking, hangovers are the result of your body being deprived of nutrients that it needs, either because of dehydration (alcohol being a drying agent) or because it blocks/absorbs/neutralizes vitamins (usually, the B-complex family is screwed when you drink).

    So, I don’t think it’s unreasonable to assume that problems with fetuses and drinking could be linked to nutritional deficiencies, rather than the alcohol itself per ce. Therefore, moderation would be the solution. Sadly, we Americans aren’t all that good at moderation — all or nothing is our thinking.

    Current favorite beers:
    Fat Tire’s 1558 (OMG SO GOOD)
    Gordon Birsch’s Marzen Ale

  • Beer says:

    Hi, all – original letter-writer here (SO THRILLED that I have earned the nickname Beer!).

    Wanted to say thanks for all the input. I actually haven’t been eschewing alcohol altogether (or coffee, for that matter, because that would be crazy talk). However, as someone who generally had either a beer or a glass of wine most evenings after work, I figured that I had to drink less than that, anyway. The NA request was for getting through the day when I really want a cold one, but just had one a day or two ago, you know? Also for the drinking-in-public scenario. I am in complete agreement that Americans are way too much all-or-nothing about, well, everything, pregnancy included… and am pleased to report that my OB feels the same!

    @Courtney – I actually am a Chicagoan who has made many a trip to the Three Floyds pub – such a great spot! So glad to hear I’m not the only one who’s discovered it!

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